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I just discovered something about the grief I am enduring at this moment … which is that recalling memories of the loved one I just lost serves as a salve for the pain that continues to cut deeply into my heart.<\/p>\n

Many of you know already that I lost my bride this past Friday to cancer. The diagnosis came the day after Christmas. Then she was gone.<\/p>\n

My sons and I are planning a service soon here in North Texas. One of them joined me in meeting with the pastor who will officiate at Kathy Anne’s graveside service. The Rev. Mally Baum — who my bride and I only recently got to know when we began attending the church where Mally serves — asked me questions about my bride.<\/p>\n

She wanted to know more about her life journey<\/em> and about her faith journey.<\/em> My son and I shared much with her. We laughed out loud at some of the goofy things my wife would say. We shared her story, talked about her upbringing, I recalled the day she appeared before me at the college we both attended, about our story together and how we insisted on holding hands when we walked together.<\/p>\n

Remembering those things brings comfort to me and to my sons.<\/p>\n

Is it pain free? Of course not! I still well up … easily, in fact. Then it passes.<\/p>\n

My friends tell me the grief will not subside quickly. They remind, though, that it will eventually. I believe Joe Biden’s wisdom when he has told Americans that the tears we shed when we think of lost loved ones will give way to smiles and laughter.<\/p>\n

It’s happening to me now. albeit in teeny, tiny increments.<\/p>\n

Grief, indeed, can teach us much about ourselves. I am learning about myself in real time.<\/p>\n

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